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Housing has always been the greatest Australian wealth lever – the CGT-free family home is still the most effective way most of us build wealth. It’s just harder to get something you want for your money.
So the real question is: how do we help our children get there?
My 22-year-old daughter is beginning to show a real interest in moving out of home. She had a taste of financial independence last year, working in Whistler as a ski instructor on a mid-degree gap year, and she loved it.
But now she’s back in Brisbane finishing her studies and facing the bigger challenge: how to become financially independent without throwing everything into the rental market and wiping out her chances of ever saving a deposit.
She’s one of the lucky ones. We don’t put a time limit on how long she can stay at home, and we’d rather she take her time to understand the housing market before diving in. So we’ve started a series of family “money conversations” to help her frame the problem and come up with a next step she feels good about.
Lesson one: Start with a big picture
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She has decided she wants to buy a home for herself, not move into the rental market. Sounds smart to us – so we wanted to understand what that looks like and help her form a picture so she can set some realistic goals.
We pulled up a real estate website, looked at listings a few kilometres from home, and realised that with a 5 or 10 per cent deposit, she’d need to borrow around $550,000 for a one-bedroom or $650,000 for a two-bedder in Brisbane.
We ran the numbers against a starting teacher’s salary in a mortgage calculator, and the repayments were daunting – more than 60 per cent of her wage.
That kind of exercise – confronting the real prices and repayments – gives kids housing literacy and grounds their expectations and ours. It also informs us all on how much saving needs to be done to build a deposit on a loan she can afford.
And then take a look at the concessions available to first-home buyers — because there are some big ones right now. The federal government has made it possible to buy with just a 5 per cent deposit, without paying costly lenders’ mortgage insurance, and state governments are adding their own sweeteners to encourage new builds and help first homebuyers into the market.
In fact, stamp duty waivers and concessions for first-home buyers exist in every state and territory, but the rules, thresholds and property value caps differ depending on where you buy.
Lesson two: Encourage creative thinking
After the shock of the numbers, her thinking shifted: what could I do to work around this? “Maybe my friends and I could live together – and if I bought the flat, they could rent from me,” she suggested. Or she could get a tenant.
I threw in my own idea: “What about buying something less pretty – a solid old boxy-brown brick unit that needs renovating a few suburbs further out, instead of a shiny new apartment?” She wrinkled her nose, of course, but the seed was planted — and that’s what matters. She’s started exploring those ideas by herself.
These sparks are the beginning of independence. And they matter because housing is still the single most powerful way to build wealth in Australia.
Illustration by Dionne GainCredit: Dionne Gain
Banks lend more to you for housing than any other asset type and the family home is CGT-free, and it remains the great national wealth lever over the long term.
But today’s kids need more creative entry points, and they need support to understand how to take sensible risks - rent-vesting, co-buying with a sibling, taking in a tenant, or moving further out to find an affordable suburb are all options they may never have thought possible.
The key lesson: there’s always more than one way onto the ladder.
Lesson three: Build the savings habit
Once she’d started imagining ownership, the next question came naturally: how do I actually save for this? That was our cue to teach about saving and investing.
We sat down together and built her first simple budget – income on one side, expenses on the other. Then I introduced the golden rule: pay yourself first. Before spending a cent, decide what percentage goes straight to savings and learn how to invest those savings for growth.
For my daughter, that’s about 50 per cent of her part-time wage. Every time she reaches $2000, she sweeps it into growth investments. We opened an online brokerage account, researched three ETFs together, and have just drip-fed her first $5000 into the market.
Now she’s watching, learning, and seeing her money work. She’s going to see it go up and down over time, and learn about feelings, risk and reward this way.
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There’s magic here: it’s not just the dollars saved, it’s the habit formed and the confidence gained. Teaching kids to budget and invest turns saving from a chore into a pathway to independence.
And finally: give them a hand up not a hand out
Once kids can see the big picture, think creatively about their options, and start building the savings habit, the last piece is how we as parents or grandparents can step in – not with a handout, but with a genuine hand up.
I’m a big believer in kids doing the hard yards to learn how to grow their own wealth, savings, and success. Our role is to back them, not carry them (sorry kids!)
That might mean lending or gifting matched funds on their savings if you can afford it, so every dollar they put away gets doubled. Just make sure any loan is documented with a written agreement – it protects both sides if relationships change down the track.
The goal is to reinforce what they’re already learning and make the path a little easier, without taking away the pride and confidence that comes from doing the work themselves.
Bec Wilson is the author of the bestseller How to Have an Epic Retirement and the newly released Prime Time: 27 Lessons for the New Midlife. She writes a weekly newsletter at epicretirement.net and hosts the Prime Time podcast.
- Advice given in this article is general in nature and is not intended to influence readers’ decisions about investing or financial products. They should always seek their own professional advice that takes into account their own personal circumstances before making financial decisions.
